Well ladies, I am sure you all know that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. This can mean one of two things – getting flowers and chocolates or sitting at home alone with a movie, eating away your sorrows. Why do we put ourselves through this torture? When you stop to think about it, it just does not make sense. We are all strong, independent Stephens women, right? We shouldn’t need the love of another person to love ourselves.
Although I am in a relationship, for the two years we’ve been together we have never celebrated Valentine’s Day. Wouldn’t you rather be surprised on any other day of the year than be semi-surprised on a day it’s just expected to give and receive romantic gifts? The expectations of flowers and heart-shaped necklaces take out the thoughtfulness of gift-giving.
But not having a valentine shouldn’t keep you from celebrating. If you are just dying to have all of the cute Valentine’s Day stuff but don’t have anyone to buy it for you, just take the money you would have spent on someone else and put it toward yourself. Send yourself some flowers. Order a dozen Hot Box cookies. Who doesn’t instantly cheer up when they have Hot Box cookies? If you are low on money, wait until the next day to go buy all the leftover Valentine’s Day merchandise on markdown. This way you save money and get your chocolate fix. Win-win! So, instead of worrying about finding someone to be your valentine, it is time to focus on yourself and your happiness.
Loving yourself is not something that comes easy, but it is definitely worth the work. Start by focusing on your positive aspects rather than worrying about any negatives. Go out of your way to do nice things for yourself. Give yourself a break sometimes. Take time to do something you love. Go shopping and treat yourself to something. You are worth it. Do your hair and makeup or whatever it is that makes you feel good. You will feel more confident and all-around better about yourself. By doing these things regularly, you will find that you don’t need someone else’s love to love yourself. That is the biggest lie that romantic movies tell you. Your happiness should never dependent upon simply having a boyfriend or girlfriend.
So this Valentine’s Day, don’t be one of those girls who traps herself in her room and cries about not having a significant other to celebrate with. Remember that it isn’t all about the possessions as much as it is loving yourself and being truly happy. That is a far better gift than a cheap rose anyway.